Wednesday Wisdom With Wyndham – 17

Wisdom Finds the High Road

It was a pivotal time in my life. A time when I could have sold my soul to bitterness. Thankfully, Wyndham’s wisdom (and humility) prevailed.

We had been in the ministry for eight years. I was 28 years old and Wyndham was 30.  He had been preaching in a traditional type church for 3 years. We had led campus ministry for the previous five years, but this was his first preaching job. The church was growing, but the leadership was not united. In fact, one of the leaders would stand at the back door after Wyndham came down from the pulpit and pass out negative literature about us to the people who were leaving.

One woman called and swore at me, and I never even knew why. We were away one week when one of the leaders called and told my husband he should find a new job, as he wouldn’t be able to stay there. Fired. The reason stated was this. “We don’t have any problem with what you are preaching. It’s the Bible. The problem some people are having is that when you come out of the pulpit, you expect people to follow it! And they don’t want to change.”

I was angry with the leaders and their decisions. I felt we had been wronged and were treated unfairly. That was true. I felt, as James and John (in their immaturity) stated in Luke 9:54 like calling down fire from heaven to destroy them.

As Wyndham delivered his last sermon I was waiting for him to “let them have it”— firmly rebuking them.  Instead, he took the high road. He called them to follow Jesus, but then apologized for anything he had ever done to hurt anyone.

What?!  I then struggled with my husband. Why didn’t he let them have it!  Bitterness was growing in my heart.

But he understood the wisdom that comes from God.

  Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.
  But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth.
  Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil.
  For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
  But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
  Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. (James 3:13-18)

He found the high road and took it, never giving in to bitterness but trusting that God would take care of us. We just needed to be humble and trust God. I had to have some talks with the elders and some soul searching times with God. I realized that Jesus could have sinned even as he hung on the cross. Perhaps he faced his greatest temptation while on the cross! The temptation to be bitter. He was unimaginably mistreated. Yet he said to the angry crowd as they spat and swore and crucified him, “Father forgive them. They don’t know what they are doing.”  (Luke 23:34).  As I read I thought…what do you mean? Of course they knew. Why did he say that?

I do believe they still needed to repent and be baptized to be forgiven (Acts 2:38). But, perhaps Jesus said those word to rid any temptation of bitterness from his heart. If Jesus was not bitter, what right did I have to be bitter? I don’t deserve forgiveness, but Jesus gave it to me.

So, I let it go, and following the example of Wyndham’s “wisdom from above” –truly forgave. God’s word was still true, and his plan for the church was still his only plan. I have hurt others so who am I to hold on to hurt?

I shudder to think where this bitterness would have led me had my husband not taken the high road. I would have lost my soul had I held on.

Soon after, a brother that had been converted in our campus ministry asked if we would be willing to move where he lived to start a church. 13 disciples were there and were willing to support us. One of the families invited us (along with our two girls and a child on the way) to live with them. We had no insurance and no money—but a lot of faith. God blessed that decision and never deserted us. Instead, he blessed us. 

We all have temptations to grow bitter. Yet we all can make the decision to take the high road. Which road will you travel? Wisdom finds the high road.




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  1. Susan Gonet

    This message brought tears to my eyes. Human kind has such potential to hurt one another- anyone who has belonged to a church has seen the foolishness of human thinking- or not-thinking. How dare Wyndham dedicate his life to preaching the word and then expect people to follow the bible!!! It is always refreshing to witness a humble response to that kind of behavior. It is less-traveled road for sure- the high road.

    • jeanieshaw

      Thank you, Sue. You are such a thoughtful, kind and beautiful person inside and out. You do a great job walking the high roads. Love you very much.

  2. Jennifer Lambert

    Jeanie, thank you again for sharing Wyndham’s wisdom and humility, which you also demonstrate. I am grateful God has given you a great talent for simply communicating deep insights. Thank you for so generously sharing that gift to His glory. I look forward every week to your posts.

    • jeanieshaw

      This is so encouraging to my soul, Jennifer. You are kind and thoughtful. Thanks for taking the time to respond. Love you. Jeanie

  3. Tanya Guinn

    So so grateful you both took the high road & followed Jesus. Your decisions has effected generations for all eternity! This includes me, since Wyndham helped Sheridan become a disciple, and he & Deb shared the gospel & their lives with me and our campus ministry & were instrumental in my husband David & I becoming the first dating couple in our campus group…literally generations have begun following Jesus too. Our oldest daughter Lindsay & AJ & our grandson Cole are with the church in Portland, Maine, we miss them terribly from North Carolina, but so grateful they are faithful & helping the church there grow. Our youngest Emily married a godly man Austin & she is a Nurse at Duke in the PC-ICU, helping save the lives of children & babies. So you & Wyndham are my spiritual grandparents!💕Tanya Guinn
    PS I am a mental health Therapist & DT Counselor Connect will be adding me to their endorsement in NC.

  4. aladyinfrance

    This is really beautiful and encouraging and just what I needed to read this morning.


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About Jeanie Shaw

After retiring from forty-five years in full-time ministry, Jeanie Shaw went back to school to earn her master’s and doctorate in spiritual formation and discipleship. She also serves as a certified Christian life coach who loves helping people discover the joy, peace, and purpose that come from finding and following God’s plan for their lives. She has taught classes and workshops all over the world and has written numerous books. She has four grown children, eight grandchildren, and a golden retriever who thinks he is human. When she is not reading, writing, coaching, teaching, or enjoying her family she might be found walking along rivers, learning new lessons about life.

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